Gf addicted to adderall and ativan benzo. Want to start a family. Been waiting for years 4 her to get clean. Wondering if I should wait or leave.
I'm 36 years old and gf 33.
She has been seing a psychologist for 7 years. Just started seeing a psychiatrist 4 months ago after telling the truth to her family doctor she has been abusing her adderal and benzo ativan for more than 3 years. (Taking more than prescribed and finishing always 1 week)
Gf has a big ass with drugs use (mdm, speed, a bit of cocaine, a lot of alcohol).
She doesn't take party drugs that much anymore maybe 2 to 3 times per year.
She doesn't trow up drinking alcohol anymore maybe 1 or twice per year but she has migraine next day because of drinking to much.
Now she drinks less because she substitute with shrooms.
I have supported her in the 4 first years but the last 3 I have been negative and unsupportive towards her problem with Adderall benzo. (Finishing bottle 1 week before end of month)
I have been honest with her that I'm having cold feet.
Some people say it's better that I let her go . So that she can deal and face the root of her addictions and so i can remove my resentment and negative energy from her life.
And that i can focus on me and if life brings me a woman with whom I can have kids welll good. (Because I ain't getting younger)
If life brings us back together later so be it.
I just wondering if the right move is to let her go. Your feedback is appreciated.